Sometimes you may expect from your spouse too much, for example, you may want your partner to constantly affirm him/her love, require total protection, and fidelity. Though this behavior is called intimacy overload that involves blurred boundaries. You are actually emotionally suffocating your spouse making him/her feel smothered in a relationship. Excessive expectations, unreasonable demands, anxiety, insecurity, low self-esteem and other symptoms show that you may need some help. So, read the following signs of intimacy overload and tips to decrease its level in your relationship in order to avoid its breakdown.
1. You Feel that Your Partner Has Withdrawn from You
Emotional and physical smothering results in withdrawing your partner from you. The truth is, the harder one try to hold onto the object of the desire, the more likely he/she is to lose that thing or person. The reasons may be different, for example, if your ex cheated on you, you would probably want to hold tightly to the person who you are dating now, or someone told you that men/women cannot be trusted, or you are afraid to lose your partner because you think you won’t meet anyone else because of the age, or your partner seems to be too perfect, too nice to lose him/her. If your partner is feeling suffocated in a relationship, give him/her time and physical space in order to balance your need for intimacy. In order to convince your partner not to drive away from you try to build your relationship using new, completely different patterns based on fidelity, trust and high-esteem instead of “holding on” to him/her tight.
If you want to know more tips for those who makes their partner feel smothered in a relationship, please read other tips.